Both the blogosphere and Facebook have been a-buzz with the question: what are your New Year's resolutions? Around the world, people are saying they are going to lose weight, stop smoking, eat out less, etcetera, etcetera. I have avoided posting a status along those lines, and I haven't commented on any. Why? Because I'm not making any resolutions.
Now don't get me wrong, there's plenty about me that needs attention. But I am a work in progress, and have been for some time now. Resolve to lose weight? Well, that's what I've been doing actively for the past 16 months, give or take. I intend to keep up, as it has become a lifestyle and a habit for me. So, it's not really a resolution that I can make. I don't smoke, so stopping smoking isn't an option. I don't drink that often, so drinking less makes about as much sense as giving up raw fish for Lent.
If I was going to make a resolution, something to actively change about myself, it would be to cease being single. However, that really isn't something *I* have all that much control over. To bastardize a line from one of my favorite authors, it isn't like love is something I can buy at the store, a tangible item I have yet to obtain like crackers or soap. There are steps I can take, and I've taken many of them. I've posted a profile and gotten a membership to a high-profile online dating website. I'm trying to get myself "out there" more, making new friends who, theoretically, can introduce me to their friends. Three new jobs means oodles of new colleagues -- which has been a bit of a bust, since at job #1 all my coworkers are married, job #2 all my coworkers are female (and married) and job #3 my only true coworker is gay. The other folks I'm exposed to via that job are married and the median age, I'd gander, is around 65, at least of the men. Job #1 also exposes me to many people, but so far I've yet to meet anyone male, single, and 30-45. Yet I remain optimistic.
That aside, I intend to do what I've been doing. Keep taking better care of myself, and be a better person in general. I'm not going to let a temporary misstep be a "broken resolution." I'm just going to pick up and keep on going.
And if you know any single, straight men, age 30-45 (roughly), let me know.